Weight Loss Update – December 2017

UPDATE

I feel bad that I haven’t posted an update to my weight loss and a lot of readers probably think I’ve given up. Let me assure you I am in no way giving up on this journey to a better ME. At weigh in today I was down another two pounds for a total now of seven (7) pounds LOST. Yes, I know that’s a long way from my goal, but I’m still losing and I’m doing it my way by gradually loosing the weight instead of trying to lose lots of weight at one time and then putting it all back on. I feel that going at the rate that I’m doing this I have a better chance of staying on track and keeping the weight off in the future, which is my ultimate goal.

INCHES LOST

In addition to the weight loss, I measured and I’m down a total of 3 inches in the areas that I measure, which are the boobs, waist and hips. I could be losing more inches in other areas, but I don’t want to measure every inch of my body.

FOOD

My hardest part is still trying to cut back on eating certain foods. I’m a southern girl who loves her bisquits and jelly, sweet tea, rice and potatoes, plus a lot of other high carb foods. I’ve cut back my portions and continue to exercise daily on the Total Gym. No matter how hard the struggles become, I will continue to work towards my ultimate goal!

Weight Loss Update

Time for a weight loss update!!!

POUNDS LOST
As of today I have lost a total of 5 pounds. I have many more to go, but as long as I can keep loosing every week, then I am on the right track. I have changed my eating habits in many ways, but still need to continue to improve in the things I need to say NO to! 

EXERCISE
As for working out, I do that every day on the Total Gym. I started doing the 6 day 6-8 minute workout that gives you something different to do every day as to help ease the monotony of doing the same thing every day as that gets old and makes me loose interest in what I’m doing.

SUCCESS
I feel like I’m on the road to success as long as I keep my long-term goals in mind and continue to strive to do what I know is best for me physically and mentally.

 

 

My Weight Loss & Mental Health Journey Begins

I finally decided to get two of the most important aspects of my life in order, my weight and my mental health. For several years my weight has gone up and down and so have my moods. I have searched for a doctor several times to help with the mental issues, but never could find someone who would take me serious when I said I had problems. Thank God, my doctor in Texas took me serious and has begun a regiment that will help me mentally get my life together.

MENTAL HEALTH

Along with getting my mental health together, I have decided to start working on my weight issues as well. If I’m going to be healthy, I need to be healthy in all areas of my well-being. In the last 3 years I have added 40 pounds to my body and not only do I have to lose those forty, but I need to lose a lot more. I know it will be a total life change in what I eat, what I do and how I look at myself for this change to really work.

TOTAL GYM

We bought a Total Gym, so we could workout at home as we know from previous experience that going to a gym will not work out for us. I have been doing the Total Gym now for two weeks and I’m down 2 pounds. I know that doesn’t sound like a lot, but for me to stay upbeat and want to continue I must see some type or progress no matter how small or big.

In addition to using the Total Gym I am walking, but need to increase that more and more every day to have even more success in this process.

PROGRESS

My plan is to post about my progress even when things might not be going in my favor. I’m the type of person that must hold myself accountable and I need others to hold me accountable as well. That helps to keep me on track.

The way I look at this is I have nothing to lose, but a hell of a lot to gain on this journey.

My Journey to Becoming a Virtual Assistant (VA)

A few months back I was working a full-time job for a company that I won’t name doing a job that I hated. It was at that point I decided I needed to work for myself. Most people ask, “why would you want to work for yourself?” and I have to say, “so I can be in control of my life.” Of course, we all know that your only in control to a point and then it’s the people you work with that have a certain amount of control over you.

In my lifetime, I have had several job titles and learned many tasks that I am now wanting to use as I make myself available as a Virtual Assistant. What is a Virtual Assistant, aka VA? A VA is a person who assist small businesses, entrepreneurs, solopreneurs, etc. doing administrative tasks, website creation and maintenance, social media platforms, bookkeeping and any other tasks that an administrative assistant, personal assistant or executive assistant could do in an office, but when done by a VA, it is done from their home office via online.

I get to set my own hours, which are 9:00 am to 3:00 pm (CST) Monday through Friday. I get to decide who I work WITH, not who I work for, but who I work WITH as I am your equal. I am an independent contractor, so I don’t work for you. You do not have to pay me any benefits and give me holiday or vacation pay.

I will give you a FREE hour for every 10-hour Retainer Package that you lock in. Packages are available for 10, 20 and 30 hours per month. In addition, you can purchase time by the hour. If you need more time per month, I will prepare a proposal for such. Please contact me directly for more information at my business email: freedomvirtualmanagement@gmail.com.

 

Adjusting to the Big 5-0 has Not Been an Easy Road

I always thought turning 50 would mean that I had finally hit a momentous occasion and would have really accomplished something in my life. However, when 50 came rolling down the road, it hit me like a ton of bricks that no one cared but me. There was no big celebration, no cake, no candles, no nothing except for the Facebook friends who said Happy Birthday and a couple of calls from family members.

After a few days of it sinking in that I was now of a certain age, it was time to take matters into my own hands and figure out where I wanted my life to go from here. I’ve had an empty nest for almost ten years and for the last two years my husband and I have traveled the eastern United States. So now where do I go and what do I do with myself?

To be honest, these past few months have been very depressing and I have felt that my life had no meaning. It was not until recently that I knew I needed to make some changes and get my crap together and get back to the fun loving, outgoing, energetic human being I use to be.

I know I’ve lived with a lot of guilt and grief over the last ten years and it’s been hard to put all that aside and move on with my life. My guilt involves my children and my grief involves my late husband. I have read many books, articles and blog posts by Carole Brody Fleet who was widowed at an early age and have gotten a lot of inspiration from her. I know deep down that I have what it takes to get my life back on track as I done that back in 2009 and 2013 and now it’s time I got my stuff together again and put my life back together, quit being depressed all the time and enjoy the time that I have because I’m still very much alive and I have a lot to be thankful for. 

I have three beautiful children, a step-son, their spouses and eight adorable grandchildren that I should be doting on as much as possible all while enjoying my life with my wonderful husband. This past year has been harder on him medically than me, but we can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel so to speak and we are looking forward to him being 100% recuperated soon.

I am taking the necessary steps to get my life back on track by getting medical help for problems that need to be addressed and starting an exercise regimen that will help me to not only loose some much-needed weight, but will also help me to feel better in the long term. I can already tell a difference over the last 10 days that this has been going on and I look forward to continually getting healthier.

Just because I’ve hit the big 5-0, it doesn’t mean my life is over. My life will always be whatever I make of it and I’m not ready to roll over dead just yet so look out world because I am coming back with a vengeance and I will get my life back on track and will succeed at whatever I put my mind to.

 

How I Dealt with Widowhood and Remarriage

Sometimes the pieces of my life include memories of a lost love who I still miss, grieve over and sometimes hate for leaving me and our children to coast through this world alone. Although the second of February marked the ninth year he’s been gone sometimes it still feels like it was yesterday.

When I met the wonderful man who I am currently married to, I had been a widow for six years. My children were all grown ranging in age from 22 to 32 and I had no plans to remarry although I had been dating for several years. I mainly missed the companionship of a man. I had accepted the cards that had been dealt me as far as being a widow, but that need to have someone to share my day-to-day life with was real and something I missed more than anything. All of my kids lived in another state and had their own lives and relationships when I remarried, but to them I should have stayed a widow forever. A piece of advice never in your state of grief promise your children you will never remarry cause those words could bite you in the butt later.

Widowhood wasn’t something I was prepared for although I knew was a great possibility the day my husband had transplant surgery. Prior to having the surgery he had gotten real sick and we were told without a transplant he would surely die. With a transplant the odds were more in his favor of living a long life. We did prepare for the inevitable, although we were really hoping and praying for a good outcome. It was not until three days after surgery that he slipped into a coma that would change not only my life, but the life of our kids forever.  The turmoil we all went through during the six weeks he lay in a coma was more than I thought any of us could bare. I put up a brave front for my children, two of which were still in high school, but I was hurting more than I ever really let on. I put the pieces of our shattered lives back together the best I could and carried on. I had too for the sake of my kids. I returned to work after being off for ten weeks only to walk out on a job I had been at for five years. It would be four months before I would even consider going back to work.

I was depressed and most days I didn’t do much more than feed my kids. Most days I wished it had been me that had died. I hated my husband for leaving me alone to deal with the aftermath. Eventually I realized I had to go back to work, for financial reasons more than anything else, as my kids depended on me to take care of them. I know I let them down and I have said I’m sorry more times than I can remember, but it’s not enough.

Our youngest daughter graduated high school, then went to the local community college, which led to her moving out. Our youngest son graduated the following year and joined the Army National Guard during his senior year which would have him leaving for basic training in the summer after graduation and then a tour in Kuwait. Knowing that both of my youngest would be on their own and I would be left totally alone with an empty nest I decided to move out-of-state to start over. And start over I did. I moved to Nashville, Tennessee with nothing but the contents of my house and a car. I moved in to an apartment with no job, no friends and no family.

It made me have to survive on my own. Something I had never experienced in my whole life as I’ve been a mom since I was seventeen so I went straight from my parents to adulthood. I never experienced life without a man until my husband passed away. The experience made me stronger in some ways and weaker in others.

Stronger in the fact that I learned how to do so much for myself. It took three months to get a job, but I did it. I made new friends and I done things I never dreamed possible. I proved to myself that I could make it on my own. Weaker in the fact that I hate being alone. Loneliness is very real and can be very scary.

The loneliness is what lead me to Greg, but when we met I had no intentions of getting married. I kept telling myself I would be okay with just living together, but I knew deep down I would never feel comfortable doing that and even though my children were not happy with my choices, I needed to do this for me. In the three years we have been together so much has changed where my children are concerned, but I do not regret my choices.

With all that being said, I don’t think we ever quit grieving for those that we’ve lost. The way we deal with the loss and grief is what matters. I will always have the memories and stories of the times we spent with our children, which carries me through the tough days.

As I look at my future I know I will survive whatever is thrown at me. I have a wonderful husband, beautiful grandchildren and a future that includes making wonderful memories exploring this beautiful country as we RV all over the country.